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I dint watch “Hasi to phasi” or “Queen”. But Highway was good in many ways.
I watched it as I heard it is nice and I loooove Randeep. I actually had not expected Alia acting so well(dint like student of the year) or having such a nice role.
It was a treat to see her do what she wants to do. My dream is to visit most of the beautiful places in the world. But I have never been out of my native place. The same “girls should be kept safe at home” concept. May be for this I enjoyed every scenery in the movie. I always have had a wild dream to go to the Bermuda triangle when I feel I have lived enough. They say who ever goes there never returns. I wish to solve the mystery before I die Really crazy. Any girl with such wild dreams would love the movie.
Any girl who wishes to “be free” would love the movie. The child abuse and physical abuse part has been shown in a heart touching way. As usual Randeep was awesome.
2 things were a shock, which dint go as I had thought they would. After all it is just a Bollywood movie.
i) When Veera (Alia) says she neither wants to marry nor to have kids. The hindi movie heroins have been always portrayed as “Adhuri”(incomplete) without a man and children. Some stupid hindi saas bahu serial recently was on TV in which the “sanskari bahu” thinks she is incomplete without a child. UFFFF. It was nice to see a girl breathe and decide that she need not marry if she doesn’t want to.
ii) When Veera (Alia) decides that she wishes to leave home and stay in the mountains where she always wished to live. I would have expected her to die (The Raam Leela types) or go crazy or finally just find someone else (the happy ending fairy tales ). She fights back! She goes to the mountains. She shouts at her uncle for having abused her in front of all. She lives the life she wants.
There was another article the same day. The only thing the Vajramuni was able to see was Randeep slapping Alia and the beautiful scenery. The movie clearly shows the difference of what we think is good and what is actually good. The society, the ‘reet rivaaj’, you are a girl- you need to be careful- you need to be quite if you are abused is all right. But there is a problem if a guy “protects her form a lecherous underling”. He shouldn’t be doing that. He is a bad boy after all. Why should there be a reason for him to be bad? Boys don’t feel anything. Really?
What if she hadn’t been kidnapped? What if she married a just-another-idiot ? She would have lived her life being suffocated. She would have been abused all her life. She would have “reared kids” even if she dint want to. She would have died just like any girl in the country who has to “behave” in a particular way and not have any dreams at all.
I wish that every girl DREAMS and doesn’t just settle for marriage and kids unless she really wants to. I wish she breathes and tries every way to fullfil her dreams.
When i had only DD National on TV and I had no choice except to watch it. It showed an ad again and again usually with Amitab appearing on screen saying ” Do boond zindagi ki.” When I had polio drive this week I wished to volunteer and see how it goes about.
The volunteers had to attend a mandatory counselling. I reached the given place (The Primary Health Centre at Vidyapeeta circle, Banshankari, Bangalore,where already few volunteers were waiting. We waited a while for few more. The lady who was to give us information on polio was a doctor. She started with what is polio.
She said that there have been no cases reported on polio in recent years thanks to the pulse polio drive. She showed the box which has the small bottles with the drops. We were taught on how to check if the polio drops bottles can be used for children. The bottles had a square drawn on them and an inner circle. Based on its shades we can decide if the polio vaccine is to be used or thrown. They also said it doesn’t normally happen.
There were also few things we needed to take care of.
The box should not be opened completely or left open so that there ia no variation in its temperature. Instead you can put your hand inside and pick a bottle.
The box should be kept in a shade.
The bottle once taken out should not be put back inside.
After this session we were assigned dates on which we could join the drive.
I went to the hospital on th actual date of Polio Drive where a girl joined me. There were students from different colleges. They were made into groups of two or three n sent to an area where they had to cover all houses in that particular area. The job was basically to go door to door and enquire if the kids upto age of five have been given polio drops or not. If they have not been vaccinated then we would have to give them two drops of polio vaccine. If the kids have not been vaccinated and have gone to school then we had to Inform them about next polio drive date which was after a month.
The girl who was with me had previously been a part of polio drives as her aunt was a nurse in that hospital. We were assigned some area near a temple in Banashankari. We would go to a house and the girl would call ” Exxxcuuuse meee.. ” ,dragging each syllable which sounded like a song. When someone peeps out she would ask if the kids were taken for pulse polio camps set up on the previous day. We were given sheet to mark. We started with noting down the address of the first home into the sheet.
Most of the houses said they had the vaccination done. We just had to mark it in the sheet the number of kids at home and how many kids were vaccinated. Also whether we put the polio drops or they had been taken to the camp. But few homes had not done it because they were not aware of when the camps had been set up. She took out one bottle and put the drops in the kids mouth. I took a marker n put a dot on left hands short finger. Then we would write on the door with a chalk – the number of kids vaccinated, date and a number corresponding to the sheet we marked.
It was helpfull because there were 12-15 kids who had not been vaccinated( who were given drops from us). There was a lady who dint know at all about pulse polio or polio as a whole. We vaccinated her kids and asked her to take the kids to polio drive camps that would be there in February.
I was tired after walking for two hours. There were still hundred houses to go. The parents queried whether it is ok to Give something to eat or drink after giving the drops. IT IS SAFE TO FEED THE KIDS AFTER POLIO DROPS HAVE BEEN GIVEN TO THEM. Also there was a kid who was unwell (had fever). But still it was safe to give the drops. After half an hour more the houses in that area were completed. We went back to temple. I signed the sheet and left while the girl waited for her aunt. It was a hectic day but a good one. I learnt so much.
My friend refuses to meet our school time class teacher. Back then we all (friends ) were playing. A boy hit her and she was chasing him to hit him back but couldn’t. He was fast at running. So she kept laughing trying to catch him. Suddenly the class teacher (a lady) entered and slapped my friend. She tried explaining that he was the one who had hit her. But she got scolded for having let the boy hit her.
My cousin sister who is just 10 yrs old was proposed by her classmate. She said this to her mom who inturn blamed her. The mother said her that she must have done something for the boy to have proposed her.
Many such “trainings” are a must in society so that they keep “Girls in control”. Boys are taught that no matter what they do it us the girls fault. Now they just hit or propose later they might rape too. Here is a link of fakeindianbahu who wishes to send a letter to the govt to add a curriculum that trains kids against these patriarchal values. Please do visit.
Have seen many such posts on FB pleading girls not to upload pictures on FB. This is no different from the ‘victim blaming’ culture.
U are a girl !! You are not supposed to dress like you like , you are not supposed to have any sexuality, you are not even supposed to upload any pictures. !! Its your fault! You are born as a girl so you better go invisible or someone might rape you or misuse your uploaded pic. And also as you are a girl you are not even supposed to have any self esteem. You should be blamed for everything with no one to support you. So you better commit suicide and disappear.
Good for you! ! Its your fault that you wish to LIVE YOUR LIFE. That you wish to wear clothes you like and you wish to upload your pics.
The hilarious thing about the post is that it thinks the monster who would morph the pic (whom patriarchy supports) can only access your pic through Facebook. If someone is holding grudge against you, the person would somehow get your photo and not wait for Facebook to have it uploaded. Also if assume a guy is doing this for random thinking its fun, then not the girl but this monster is to blame. He would have the same perception that even after so many warnings, if the girls post their pictures then they deserve such a punishment. No need to rape them, just morph and circulate the pics. No one would blame you. Its the girl’s fault! How dare she uploads her pics?
Never seen a post that says “Dear brothers please dont rape” or “Dear brothers please DONOT misuse the Pictures uploaded on Facebook. “
The girls are blamed and blamed so much that finally they start blaming themselves. If you are raped, you must suicide! Dowry harassment? ? Suicide! ! Morphed pics circulated?? Please commit suicide! ! This is how these posts look like to me encouraging girls to blame themselves! !
I hope this post encourages at least one boy to post ” Dear sister live your life your way! I will support you always. ” And even better if anyone would come up with the law that will support and help girls if they go through anything such. Which will inturn help to boost the self esteem and girls would just not die and vanish for someone else’s mistake.
And again let me remind. . “Dear brothers please don’t encourage rape culture!!!”
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I dint know how to start this blog, what my first post would be. Then I came across Tejaswee’s blog through IHM. IHM is an inspiration like many know. This poem is dedicated to IHM and her daughter. I might never know you but will always love u.
She must have seen the sun shine when it was still raining,
And to see the colorful rainbow waited for the evening.
She must have looked at butterflies and praised nature ‘s beauty,
She must have savoured each n every byte of cake dizzy dee.
Her imagination must have taken her on a wild ride.
To hoolasamadu, a place unknown n miss trunchbull on her side.
I m sure she was like a fairy and spread smiles with her magic wand.
She must have enjoyed playing in the snowfall of switzerland.
She must have sat watching cricket and ate chocolates with each over.
And when cricket season came to end she would be in ‘worldcup hangover’.
I think of it all staring outside window.
I wonder if we would have been friends, I ll never know.
It always feels like rain falls from heaven ;it must have fallen on her too.
With each droplet falling on her eyelashes making it look like dew.
A tear falls from my eye and is washed down by rain.
Can u really love smeone you never knew,could you really feel the pain?
She must be smiling some where in the heavens,like a bird free.
She ‘ll rule our hearts forever, pretty princess tejaswee.